Monday, February 1, 2010

Get a Game Plan

How to not overwhelm your future husband:

I quickly learned that the male brain is not equipped to handle as many details, colors, ideas, cakes, dresses, invitations, and lists as we females. So how do you let your guy help without making his head explode?

For the love of your frigging relationship, MAKE A GAME PLAN! And by game plan I do not mean meticulously go over every detail and spout out random ideas like "OOOoo save the aluminum can we used from dinner!!!! We could make it into a centerpiece!!!!!!" (Yes, I actually did this *headdesk*). He. Does. Not. Care!

As my fiance, so eloquently put it when I looked at him with shock because he wasn't excited about my tin can idea:

"Woman, I do not know what you're talking about. I'm not going to get all excited about something you're going to change your mind about in five minutes. (Also true). Come to me with a finished product and THEN I'll be excited."

So we came up with a plan to save us both from pulling each other's hair out.

It's all about priority. You know that mile-long to do list you have in your head? Prioritize it. Tell him the top three. Those are the things you will work on together.

If you're scratching your head wondering how your supposed to only focus on three wedding related things, here's an example.

Right now, the most important things to us at this very moment are:
  • find a minister
  • finalize the guest list
  • find/book a photographer

These are things that are important to us and need to be done together and by narrowing it down, there will be fewer head explosions.

Get it? If yes, enjoy your new found peace!


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  2. Wow. This reads entirely different than how my dad tried to reenact it. Josh is like that, boys are like that. This I learned in Biology: Girls have both the right side of the brain and the left side of the brain equipped with language, and therefore we understand details, and appreciate details as well. Boys,on the other hand, are only equipped with language only on the left side. The other side they have open space, and they are equip with more natural understanding of movement for sports and they just see the final picture, so if Josh makes a comment like that again when you get real excited about something small, just remember that it is just our Biology make up.